Response #3- Dilemmas Of Involved Fatherhood
January 25, 2012 § 2 Comments
Dilemmas Of Involved Fatherhood
In her article “Dilemmas Of Involved Fatherhood” Kathleen Gerson brings up the interesting double standard of parenting. There are several issues that men must face if they want to become involved fathers; career sacrifices, income, public policy and social perception. All of these concerns for males are often shadowed by the argument involving women, parenting and the workplace.
Kathleen reminds us that the first issue men deal with is career sacrificing. Most part-time jobs are not lucrative to success. Finding a part-time job that offers great pay and benefits is equally difficult. It can be especially frustrating for fathers that have already devoted and invested themselves into a specific career path.
Social perceptions of men also put them into a straining and limited position. American society declares that fathers must be resource providers and career driven. If a man decides to put his career on hold to be a father, how is that beneficial for the family? Who will bring in the income necessary to provide financial stability? Men that decide to stay home are also seen as “feminine” and weak with not enough public-policy to support them. Employers do not provide great support or take paternity leave seriously.
I would like to address the class and ask a few questions involving the topic of men and parenting. In my own family, my father worked while my mother stayed at home and handled domestic duties. What was the dynamic in your own family? Do you feel that men wanting to father are not given enough support? Do you feel that it is an issue comparable to women, mothering and the workplace?