Pride and Privilege
January 20, 2012 § 2 Comments
In my opinion a major issue when anyone, myself included, sits down to unpack their backpack and take inventory is being able to decouple their pride from what they have accomplished. From the time they are children most people are taught to be proud of their accomplishments and to embrace their strengths. This helps them to develop into self confident adults that have a strong sense of self worth and a good concept of their strengths. When we look back at our lives the default perspective is one that tells us to be proud of what we have accomplished.
It is a difficult task to look back at all your proudest accomplishments and wonder if you truly did accomplish them only on your own merit. The task becomes even more difficult when you push past the initial layer of success. For example I was admitted to Purdue and have done quite well academically. Would I have been admitted to Purdue if I was of a different group? I would say more likely than not yes. Would I still have been able to meet Purdue’s admission requirements if because of being in that different group I went to a less privileged high school? Would I still have even been motivated to apply if my primary education was not as good? The easiest and most comfortable answer is yes but that does not mean it is the right one and I cannot honestly say I know the answer. Of course I would like to assume that I would still have grown into the same adult but that may not have been the case.
This can apply to anything that feels like an accomplishment. It is hard to take something you are proud of and look at it a again from the perspective of “Have I worked hard enough to deserve this.” instead of “I deserved this because I have worked hard.”.